“Physician heal thyself…”
“First take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.”
Firstly, I’m afraid I haven’t kept up with my previously regular blogs, so my apologies for that. I’ve actually known what I wanted to write about for a few months but I was rather busy over the summer painting for an exhibition and then, in the last few weeks, I’ve been quite ill with a mild dose of pneumonia. All rather fitting, especially considering the topic that I wanted to write about, so I’ll come back to it all later.
In my last blog, I wrote how letting go of the things you feel you ‘should’ do, your duties, trusting the process and following your dreams, isn’t selfish. We’re back to the ‘s’ word again now: SELFISH. It’s a word that is bandied about a fair bit, particularly in arguments. We accuse others of being selfish, usually when we have continued with pursuits that we believe are for the betterment of others, but with the resentment for so-doing building to a heightened crescendo within us. Whereas, if everybody actually put themselves first more often, there would be less resentment, less anger. People would learn how to look after themselves and consequently have fewer expectations of others.
I have been a spiritual healer for about 17 years now. I trained with the National Federation of Spiritual Healers 13 years ago and first became a full healer member nearly 11 years ago. Part of their training programme is to be aware of your own personal and emotional, as well as your spiritual, development. It is categorically stated (as it also is in other complementary therapies) that you should be in a fit state of physical and mental health before you give healing to anyone else.
Most of us have been taught from a young age that it is important for us put the needs of others before our own; to do anything else is being selfish, and being selfish is a huge crime of great proportion in today’s society. However, the doctrine of most religions states that it is important to treat others as we like to be treated ourselves:
‘Don’t do unto others what you don’t want others to do unto you.’
This quote puts it the other way round, but still carries the same essence. If you’re going to treat others well, should you not include yourself in this philosophy? Indeed, if you are to learn and understand how to treat others, first begin with yourself, so you understand how this feels? Love begins with you and ends with you.
‘The love you take is equal to the love you make.’
Lennon & McCartney
So, it is absolutely necessary to love yourself first, so that you are then better able to love others. Learning to love yourself is the same as self-healing. With love and compassion for oneself and others comes forgiveness, not necessarily forgetting, but forgiving. This then takes you a long way down the road to self-healing. Let yourself off the hook first and foremost and then you’ll find it much easier to be able to do so to others.
Which comes first, self-healing and then love or love and then self-healing, is a bit of a chicken and egg situation. Practitioners of Reiki use it to directly heal themselves, it is part of their dharma.
If you practice meditation regularly, this is a form of self-healing, particularly if you focus on bringing in the Light. Those that practice the Ho’oponopono, the ancient Hawaiian prayer of ‘I’m sorry, please forgive me, I love you, thank you’ know and understand that this works on the theory that we are all one and that it is our perception of the world that brings suffering to others. Not that we are guilty, but that we are responsible.
So, by ‘cleaning’ ourselves with the prayer we are removing judgement, anger, all negative feelings we have harboured toward others, taking ourselves back to ‘zero’ as when we started, and so then heal others as a result, in the way best for all. Both the Ho’oponopono and meditation also work by clearing the mind and the body so that we may be better connected to our spirituality, our higher selves, the Divine, the Source or God, whichever philosophy works best for you.
Body, Mind, Spirit Symbiosis
As a healer, I work very much with the mind, body, spirit connection, as used by Louise Hay in You Can Heal Your Life or Debbie Shapiro in the Mind, Body, Spirit Workbook or Your Body Speaks Your Mind. The theories make perfect sense spiritually and logically and have been known to amaze even the most skeptical client.
We create our world, it is all about our perception, and this is manifested in our physical body, so that we become what the world makes of us.
But, as we create our world we also create ourselves. Usually, this is on such a deep, unconscious level it becomes hard to understand or control, but looking at ourselves and understanding the patterns that form in our lives, is the first step toward our healing.
Simply it works that our bones and skeletal structure corresponds to our spiritual beliefs and ideals; so, a broken bone is about a complete change in this area of our life. Where in the body it happens is also important: the left side of the body is our feminine, creative, intuitive side, our inner world and relates to women in our life, particularly the mother. The right side corresponds to men, our father, our logical, linear, outer world, especially our work. In the brain the sides swap at the base of the skull in the medulla oblongata, so our left-brain is our logical brain and the right our creative brain.
The liquid in our body corresponds to our emotions: blood, urine, saliva, mucus etc. So, if we suffer from diarrhoea, it is because something in our emotional world has become so much for us that we can’t hold it in any longer.
Our soft tissue corresponds to the mind, whether it be muscles, ligaments, the skin, etc. When our mind is tense our muscles are tense, in a relative part of the body. If we carry a lot of responsibilities we develop tense muscles in the shoulders; if emotional responsibilities it manifests more in the left shoulder and if in work or our outer world then it develops in the right shoulder.
Wheels of Energy
The esoteric energy system of the Chakras (chakra is Sanskrit for wheel, depicting a wheel of energy) is also an indication of what may be the cause of a physical issue.
The root relates to security issues; so lower back pain can indicate money worries.
The sacral chakra (just below and behind the belly button) is our creativity, connections to family and our vitality for life, as it is the area of our reproductive organs and stomach, which makes the food we eat important.
The solar plexus (just below the ribcage) is our personal power, our intelligence, our autonomy and, above all, our self-esteem; if we don’t feel confident or good about ourselves we have a tendency to hunch our back, seemingly to protect this area, but all we end up doing is blocking it.
Heart of Love
The heart centre (in the middle of the chest) is about love and compassion; here again problems can be just as much about having love for ourselves and not being too hard on ourselves.
The throat relates to communication, not just speaking but also listening, as it connects to the ears, and the peace that comes from right communication.
Eye of Wisdom
The third eye, in the centre of the forehead, relates to deep thought, intuition and our inner wisdom; if it becomes blocked it can lead to headaches here or blocked sinuses.
Finally, the crown on the top of the head, relates to transcendence, handing over our earthly cares and worries to a ‘higher power’ so we achieve a sense of bliss; which is the aim of meditation. Interestingly, Maslow’s hierarchy of needs seems to correlate to the Chakra system too, so it also works with mental health.
To be continued…